During a glorious trip to New York, I ticked off one very exciting location on my ‘to do’ list and that was – visit the FRIENDS apartment! It feels so surreal to look back at these photos and see that just last month, this was where I was and luckily enough, I can still picture it so clearly in my mind. A memory that I’ll hold on to forever.
Visiting the apartment, seeing all these tourists – including myself – stare up at a building in so much awe and queue up to take photos in front of it, it made me realise again just how much FRIENDS has had an impact on each of our lives and how much the show has taught us.
So, just for a little bit of fun, I thought I’d compile a list of all the things FRIENDS has taught me over the years of multiple, multiple rewatches:
The real world most definitely SUCKS.
Don’t get me wrong, the world can have it’s good moments, but other than that rare occasion – it well and truly S U C K S.
Working a job we’d rather not be in, our bank accounts crying, animals becoming extinct, global warming happening (and FAST), terrorist attacks, homophobia, sexism (still???), Trump as President, social media becoming toxic, if we don’t post what we’re doing on Facebook – it didn’t happen, being kind is a sign of weakness, you can’t wear certain clothing without being sexualised, etc. The world is just an awful place to be in at this very moment in time and there’s no signs of it getting better.
Will we ever live a life not in constant fear? Will we eventually love ourselves and stop worrying about not looking like people on the internet? I don’t know, but the world has become a scary place and although Monica was being sarcastic, due to Rachel’s lack of ever having to work or earn her own money – the quote ended up being 100% accurate in more ways than meant to.
Sharing is caring – unless you don’t care.
I have to admit, I’ve always been a Joey – will I ever share my food? Absolutely not.
No one can convince me with the ‘sharing is caring‘ bull either, because my only response to that is “what if I don’t care?” #sorrynotsorry.
SHELBY DOESN’T SHARE FOOD!!! (Thank you Joey for showing me that it’s okay to not share)
P.S. I’m also Joey in the matter of I won’t share my own food, but will expect others to share theirs with mine. Oopsies.
Friends are also family.
If you have the right friends around you, they will make that big of an imprint in to your life, that they become family as well. Friends that become family are so important, as it’s incredibly rare and don’t ever take them for granted.
I was lucky in the matter that two of my cousins became my best friends and that makes me the happiest. I’d love to one day have friends become family, but for now, I’m so grateful that it worked the other way for me – as there’s no people more important than your family.
Love all of your curves.
One of the most iconic lines (and my most favourite) by Joey Tribbiani, “I’m curvy and I like it!“
I’m not even close to being happy with my body, or my curves, but that doesn’t stop me from loving them. At the end of the day, until I do something about it, these are the curves that I’ve got and they’re here to stay. These curves make me who I am and my body was most likely to be the shape it is, we were all given the bodies we have for a reason. We need to love ourselves and not be ashamed of how we look or what we eat. All bodies are different shapes and sizes, that’s just life. Love those curves and love yourself!
Enjoy the little things in life.
You don’t need the most biggest and luxurious of lifestyles to be happy and enjoy your life – appreciating the small things will get you just as far as the big things. Sure, there are definitely opportunities we want and may never get, but also, things could be worse than they are and we need to make the most of what we have.
What if it was all taken away from us? Is that our only way of appreciating the little things? To have it taken away first? Don’t let that be the case. Whether it be family, small romantic gestures, nature, music, heck, even breathing! Wake up every single day happy with what you have – no one knows when it’ll all just suddenly be gone.
Happiness comes from within.
You can gain happiness from everything and anything, whether that be from family, friends, a loved one, food, music, a city, a country, etc. but the first thing that can help you achieve the right amount of happiness is yourself.
Happiness is a state of mine that we can only create ourselves from having positive emotions and energy. Happiness won’t ever come from a career, wealth, success, but yourself. You won’t find happiness by searching for it. It’s already lying within you and all you need to do is let it find it’s way out by as I previously mentioned, enjoying the little things in life.
Find out what makes you happy and who makes you happy (as long as you make yourself number one) and life will look much brighter for you. As fun as wealth and success is, they are not the reasons to be happy, they are just the cherry on top when you’ve found your happiness within.
The people you love the most can hurt you the worst.
It breaks my heart to know that this is one of the truest things you’ll ever learn and I don’t think anything can be as painful as learning this.
The people you love and believe will do absolutely anything for you, as you would do the same for them, are also the people who can break your heart and I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemies.
All I will say though, as long as you carry on being the amazing person I know you are – anybody who is willing to hurt you in whatever way, is absolutely not worth it. Whether that be toxic family members or friends, don’t ever think that you can’t cut them out of your life – it’ll be painful at first, but there will have been a time where you survived without them and you’ll continue to do so afterwards.
Don’t be afraid of change.
This is an ironic one, because I’ve ALWAYS been afraid of change – however, slowly but surely, I’m accepting it more and more. Whether change is good or bad, it is always directing you on a path towards a better life and more happiness.
It may not feel like it to start off with, but eventually your story will begin to re-write itself and what you had once been so afraid of changing, it’ll be a distant memory that you’ll eventually be happy about not having in your life anymore. If your change is positive from the get-go, then you’re already that one step closer to creating a better life for yourself and it’ll be non-stop excitement!
I’ve had some change in my life recently and although it feels like there’s a massive gaping hole inside of me – I know that this feeling will eventually go away and one day, the hole will be filled with something 10x better than what was originally there, even if I can’t see or believe it yet.
We all make mistakes and that’s okay.
It’s safe to say the FRIENDS characters made more than plenty of mistakes and as bad as some of them were, we’re all human and it’s okay to have slip-ups.
The main thing we need to when we make any type of mistake is to just learn. Learn from what we’ve done, face up to the truth and in time, it’ll only be a distant memory that has been forgiven.
Never bring yourself down for making mistakes. We all have to learn one way or another and in some cases, you need to actually make the mistake to know it was the wrong thing to do. If anyone ever judges you or tries to bring you down for making mistakes, just remember that they are in no way perfect and they probably have plenty of mistakes hidden away somewhere and are too cowardly to ever own up to them.
Weird is the new normal.
One of the main reasons as to why the FRIENDS characters have always been so inspiring to me is because they are unapologetically themselves, no matter how normal or weird they may be.
I encourage everybody to embrace their weird selves, because it is so much better than hiding that part of you away and never really letting yourself go. It’s better to stand out in a crowd than to fit in and all the people that feel uncomfortable with us doing so – they can all go and screw themselves.
Normal is boring. Stick a turkey on your head, pull funny faces when you feel awkward, fly to another country to escape an ex, dress as an armadillo, shout PIVOT from the rooftops, change your name to ‘Princess Consuela Banana Hammock’ or ‘Crap Bag’ and let’s just weird it up!