A brand new year means brand new goals! 2018 was a very anxiety-consumed year, where I allowed everyone and everything to bring me down, to the point where I became a home-bird and refused to do anything, but stay at home in my own company – missing out on so many incredible opportunities and just straight up socialising. This year will be focused on not being afraid to go for opportunities that are offered to me, socialise as much as I can take and just do all of the things that I wanted to do in 2018, but never got around to.
So, without further ado, here are my life goals for 2019 (apologies for there being so many!):
Step Out Of My Comfort Zone
I live in this little bubble where I will only do what I’m comfortable with, anything that is a little out of my comfort zone only causes me serious anxiety. I let my anxiety take away too much of my 2018 and well, I’m just not having it anymore – I will not let my anxiety control me any longer.
I have stopped myself from so many amazing opportunities that I’ve always wanted to do because I was too scared or I had nobody to go with. I am too dependant on people outside of my home and this year I want to be able to say that I have achieved things by myself and been places by myself without needing anybody by my side. Whether that be as little as going to the movies or as big as travelling to another city by myself – I am going to do it this year and when I come back to this post in a year’s time, I want to be able to share with you all how many opportunities I experienced by pushing myself out of my comfort zone and telling my anxiety NO.
If I’m going to do this, then I’m going to have to be really honest with you all – I am super lazy… like, ridiculously lazy. 98% of my days when I’m not at work are spent on the sofa binge-watching TV shows and the other 2% is me attempting to do something productive.
Last year in September, I did sign up for the gym with a work friend, however we didn’t go as much as we wanted to with it being dark nights and long days at work, we was just too exhausted by the time 5pm came around. Then my work friend had her boobies done in November, so that was another two weeks of not going to the gym – because there was noooo way I was doing it myself – and then Christmas came and who even goes to the gym at Christmas?
This year, we have decided that we’re going to cancel our gym memberships… wait for it… and use her home gym, as we will feel so much more comfortable and motivated to exercise hard! With us both being incredibly anxious people, the gym just wasn’t working because there’s too many eyes on you and then there’s people with the most perfect figure ever so you’re trying to exercise, but you’re not giving it your all because you’re feeling too self-conscious, etc. When I’m not working out in her home gym, I am going to try so hard to put down my phone, turn my TV off and put in even just ten minutes of exercise in to my day, so then I won’t fall sluggish. I can’t wait to get back in to it – which will be this Tuesday coming up – and I hope that we see a massive difference nearing the end of the year!
This is another thing that I really struggle with and mainly it’s just because I love food too much, but I also know that I could make so much more of an effort to choose healthier food options. When I’m bored, I snack. And I don’t snack healthily. It’ll be something along the lines of chocolate, crisps or some sort of cake and I don’t even know why I continue to do it because I never feel better afterwards – if anything, I just feel completely worse.
I have a sit-down job – which is why I need to focus a lot on my exercise this year – and it’s very easy to fall in to an unhealthy pattern. I work in a Family Hub (previously a Children’s Centre) so we get given chocolates, biscuits, cakes, etc. as a thank you for our services, quite a lot. Before I started my job here, I ate so healthily and I exercised every single day, but now I’ve got myself in a routine where I can’t say no to a slice of chocolate cake or I’ll sit and drink cups of tea with two sugars in, even though I know it bloats me and it really needs to stop.
In order to kick-start my healthy routine, I am going to log what I eat on an app called Lifesum (not an ad). The second thing I’m going to do is make sure that I always have breakfast before I leave for work – preferably porridge – that way I should be full all the way up until dinner time and won’t feel the need to snack. I’m definitely going to cut back on all the microwave meals I used to bring in my for my dinner (because it was the easier option) and find some healthier alternative meals and then I’ll have my tea. To prevent snacking on all the rubbish that get’s sent to us in thank you’s, I’m going to start weekly shops and buy healthy snacks such as fruit, veg, yoghurt drinks, etc. That way, if I get a bit peckish, I won’t feel so bad for it!
Learn How To Cook
Carrying on from the previous goal, learning how to cook will help me so much with keeping my motivation going with healthy eating! The meals I eat at home aren’t necessarily ridiculously unhealthy, but they definitely could be better.
Plus, if I learn to cook, there’ll be no reason for me to order takeaway’s anymore and I reallyyyyy need to cut back on them!!
I am the ultimate stress head with every single thing – no joke. I stress over EVERYTHING. This year I’ve decided to have a no fucks rule where I only stress over what is worth stressing over, and the rest can just bugger off – irrelevant things/people have no place in my life anymore.
Be More Organised
Oh gosh, I am the most unorganised person you will probably ever meet. I don’t even know how to explain how unorganised I am, but let’s just say all the projects/plans I have for the future… currently non-existent because I don’t organise my time, so I just sit and binge-watch my TV shows instead!
This year, I am going to be more organised with my personal life and my blog life. Whatever plans I have, stick to them. Keep track of appointments in my diary. Write birthday’s down in my diary. Remember to actually send a happy birthday message to people. Keep my bedroom tidy at all times. Keep on track with my blogging schedule. Follow my spreadsheet of what posts to publish when.
I hope by the end 2019, I am the most organised woman ever and I WILL start those projects I’ve forever being holding off!
Make More Of An Effort With Friends
Referring back to my first goal, ‘Stepping Out Of My Comfort Zone’ – that one definitely has something to do with the lack of effort I made with my friends in 2018. I become too much of a home bird and every-time someone tried to make plans with me, I’d make some random excuse up that I was already busy, when really I’d just be laid in bed or on the sofa watching TV. If I had made plans with people in an effort to see them, I’d always last minute cancel because I just couldn’t be bothered with it and this mind-set is one that seriously needs to go. I’m not saying that they always made plans with me and asked to make plans with me either, because they didn’t. It works both ways. However, to the people that do genuinely want to make an effort with me, I will make sure I make as much of an effort with them back.
Start Driving Lessons
Ahh, gosh. This one I am super anxious about, but I need to do it. I don’t have a problem at all with taking public transport (no matter how judgemental some people in my life are over it), because it allows me to have an hour to myself, listening to music or reading a book, before I start a hectic day of work.
However, what I am sick and tired of is buses not being on time, especially in the winter when I’m stood around for half an hour in the dark and freezing cold and/or rushing to get to work on time because they can’t be bothered to show up when they should do. I don’t know when I’ll have the courage to finally book a test, but I’ve made a promise to myself that it will certainly be this year and I can’t wait to look back in a year’s time and see how much progress/confidence I’ve made.
Pass My Theory Test
This one I would like to complete before I start my driving lessons, because then 1) it’s over and done with and 2) I’ll have a little knowledge when I do start my lessons. However, I’m just going to go with the flow and see which one I feel more confident doing first and then we’ll see how it goes from there! I don’t see me passing my actual driving test this year – but making a start on both will be the best thing I ever do and it’ll be a proud achievement for sure!
I know I said that I’m a home-bird in a previous goal, however, travelling has been something I have wanted to do for so long and well, it’s a lot more exciting than making plans in Doncaster – I’m sick of seeing this place. I’m ready to open my eyes to bigger and better places!
I already have one big holiday coming up in May – New York, eeeekkkk!! But, that’s all I have planned and I’m sorry, that’s just bang out of order. I’m not expecting to go on loads of abroad holidays, because work and money like to get in the way of that dream ever coming true, however, I really want to have a couple of city weekend breaks this year, to places I’ve never really had the opportunity to explore yet such as; Manchester, Birmingham, London, Liverpool, etc.
I would also like to spend some time away in a little cottage for the weekend, where it’s just me, whoever else I bring and nature! I will go in to more depth on my travel goals on this Saturday’s post, but this is pretty much a small break-down of it and I really hope that I can come back to this post in a year’s time and be able to say “I’ve been to this place and that place and to this city and that country.” 2019 is about to be THAT year for travel!
Open Up A Savings Account
Not to toot my own horn or anything, but I am really good at saving money – mostly because I’m too strict on myself and every time I want to buy a new make-up product or a new piece of clothing, I tell myself NO. Because of how much money I do easily save up, I really want to open a saving’s account for whatever may come my way first, whether that be a car, a house or *FINALLY* the French Bulldog I’ve always dreamt of having!
I don’t think I’ll have actually bought any of these three that I want to save up for by the end of this year, but it’ll be really exciting to see the balance of my savings account this time next year!
Complete My Goodreads Challenge of 60 Books
Over the past two years, I’ve really fallen back in love with reading and that all is really thanks to an app called Goodreads. Every year, Goodreads allows us to set ourselves reading goals to achieve by the end of the year and for me, personally, having a goal to reach has made me really push myself to read all those books I kept ignoring in my Kindle library and now I don’t even really need this challenge to keep me reading – I am obsessed with it and read every second I get the chance!
Although I don’t necessarily need the challenge to help me read, it’s still super fun to get involved! For the past two years, I’ve always kept my goal at 50 books, due to the fact that I work 9-5 shifts so it can be difficult to always find the time. However, that being said, I’m pushing myself just that little bit harder and want to get to a whopping 60 books!
Are you getting involved in the Goodreads Challenge this year? Let me know your own goals in the comments!
Learn To Say No
I am the type of person who always like to please people. I’m a people-pleaser. Sometime’s that’s a good thing and sometime’s that’s a bad thing. The good side of it is that I’m keeping my family and friends happy, however, the bad side of it is that by constantly saying yes, people begin to take advantage of you. The biggest issue of 2018 was definitely regarding money. People expected me to throw my money around if they couldn’t and I did. Of course, this is not aimed at the people who immediately paid me back, but to the people who allowed me to spend my money and then didn’t offer to pay me back or now just expects it from me… Don’t bother this year – because this answer will always be NO.
I could interpret this in to my work life as well, as last year, I began to say yes to every job given to me and I got myself that over-loaded with jobs – I ended up getting myself all flustered and stressed, because I was worried that I wouldn’t be able to get them all complete. Due to me constantly saying yes to tasks, my colleagues begun taking advantage of me and asking me to constantly do jobs that they could easily do themselves and silly me always accepted them. Well say goodbye to that – because the answer will be NO.
As the years have gone by, I have definitely accepted myself more whether that be with my appearance or me as a person, but I don’t love myself as much as I would like to still and I suppose, there’s always room for improvements! My main focus is loving my body, as I already went on about further up in this post. There’s way too much pressure to look a certain way these days and Instagram is the absolute worst app for making us feel like potatoes, so in order to achieve loving my body, I’m just going to stick with the plans I’ve previously spoken about and just let it happen in it’s own time. Whilst I’m still working on that part of myself though, it doesn’t mean that I can’t love myself at all – so, here’s to loving all the rest of me for now!
What are your life goals for 2019? Let me know in the comments x